Some people think that they can protect the alcoholic from him/herself while others think that they can tell what the alcoholic will do next, always with good intentions.
While in recovery, there are many wise sayings you'll hear from alcoholics. Some of these sayings are literal while others are supposed to make you think. Alcoholics Anonymous indicate as "the insanity of our disease." This declaration is very accurate. I can talk to you about the active alcoholic but you won't get it because understanding it means removing lucidity, the consciousness and motivation to absorb information from errors, the capacity to accept evident behavioural schemes and most of the times, using common sense.
There are partly a hundred types of alcoholism. This is the typical person hooked on booze but still being active which hasn't detached him from the endearing aspects of life. Addiction is a disease which will ensure that they will lose the things closest to them with the passage of time, and the rule of threes will dictate a long-term prognosis which will be grim [jail, institution and/or death]. The beliefs, actions and feelings of addicts are based on a warped system of thinking about themselves and their environment.
Their life is based on doing everything in excess or nothing at all. Within their world view they do not have any terms, which indicate moderation, no middle ground, no compromise or grey areas. What makes it much harder for them to make sense of all that's happening around them is that they are also not fully aware of the real extent of the destruction that their behaviour causes.
Alcoholics are considered as some of the best liars because they can use rationalisation and justification to convince themselves that a lie is indeed the truth. This takes place in the subconscious.
They are not aware that they are messing around with their lives.
To help with the lying such that it all seems well intentioned, the alcoholics start using words certain key words. The favourite word they use is "probably." "Probably" suggests goal which actually doesn't exist any. An alcoholic who gives you information that he or she will probably do something is highly unlikely to honour the commitment. With this type of expression, they create a escapist route because you can't hold them responsible for any affirmation. Such words like I need to, I want to, I'd like to, should, could, would, maybe, and probably are the alcoholic's best friends. In reality, all these words and phrases are of no significance. The words sound good, but in most cases lead to a disappointment. Gradually, all parts of an alcoholic's universe will be dragged into their alcoholism and this condition will change all their relationships and how they interact with people.
The world view of an alcoholic is quite different because he or she believes that putting blinders on a horse will leave it with no peripheral vision. The alcoholics will fail to concentrate on one thing even when they get their hands on several things.
When an alcoholic attempts to multitask, all you end up with is a mess. There isn't balance when it comes about active alcoholic. They will tend to concentrate on something specific and take it to the maximum limit. During this procedure when another part with their lives begins to decline, and gradually their lives get taken over by "firehouse management" where every course of action becomes concentrated on the most pressing problem. Though some of the victims may be able to hold up for a longer duration, their life generally begins to deteriorate from here.
Alcoholics will tend to hide how often and how much they drink when they start consuming more alcohol. They will state that they have only had three units of wine and this is accurate. However they haven't said that every glass was a 16 ounce tumbler. At this point, the negative effects of the drinking will also be hidden along with the drinking itself. "An external locus of control" is what therapist call the phenomenon alcoholics generate. Over time, someone else is to be blamed for everything. Their response is to blame their superiors if they are not doing well at work. Their spouses would be unreasonable in case their marriage is facing difficult moments. When they fail as parents, they will begin calling their children ungrateful.
So any reason and everyone is a cause to drink.The problematic alcoholic will frequently mention that they don't even wish to drink, however the situations of dealing with an unpleasant job/spouse/children "obligate" them to drink.
An extreme sense of entitlement is not unusual in alcoholics. For them, their immature, selfish and irresponsible actions are justified by the stress and hard times they experience in life. When observing the behaviour of an alcoholic it is easy to conclude and come to a belief that the entire world must owe them something. Being a target and stumbling in self-indulgence is how the active alcoholic views himself. Since they request more from the world, they hope less and less from themselves.
The word "Screw it" is actually their fastest path to destroying themselves. This is an affirmation that all things are already ruined so they may as well consume alcohol. One of the things that recovering alcoholics are encouraged to see is that the damage they are causing is mostly to themselves. And that when they say something isn't worth the trouble, they actually mean that they are not worth the trouble. The alcohol addict is constantly living in self-denial although they are aware of reality. They pretend and demand that all is well and try to convince those close to them into buying the fantasy. Their daily routine becomes less about the normality about life and more about focusing on their appearances. This has been explained adequately in pink's song "family portrait." "In our family portrait we look pretty happy.
We look pretty normal.'
Alcoholics are experts in controlling. They might not have been com artists before they begun drinking, however they have exceptional abilities. They can convince people in the most unlikely situations. They will make you think you are responsible for an argument they started because they wish to go. The skill of accountability is completely lost in them. Once they become addicted to alcohol, all forms of integrity and reliability they had in the past will gradually disappear. Every alcoholic tends to have exemptions to this rule - they will get their self-confidence from something they are really good at. In some cases, you may get an alcoholic whose attitude to work is amazing, because it is an area they enjoy so much and are perfect in ......plus drinking.
Alcoholism is a sickness that slowly takes everything away from the addict We have been questioned in so many occasions if alcoholism is a sickness or a decision. In fact, it is both illness and option. As a disease alcoholism is unique because it cannot just hide from you, but it also lies to its carrier about the presence it has. The one who is active in alcohol addiction has a singular option comparative to all other illnesses. At any point in time, the alcoholic can decide to send the disease into remission. It has often been observed that alcoholics will abstain from the substance for some time in order to prove to themselves, and the others that they are not addicted but will return with a vengeance at a later date.
Becoming sober alone is not enough indication of total recovery from alcohol. Modifying every part of one's life is needed to retrieve from alcoholism. The one who just stops consuming alcohol is what we mention as a "dry drunk" indicating that they are each bit as unhealthy, they have just quit drinking - a little percentage of population maintain this long period. True long-term recovery is only possible through programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous according to many professionals. How vital this program is can't be overstated and there are many good things that can come from such a program. Help from relatives and pals are what people in therapy need. I unfortunately deal with pals and relatives who innocently are on the side of the alcoholic (by shielding an alcoholic from the effects of their behaviour) and this keeps that person bond with booze.